As I understand it, everyone is honest. My luck with running into authentic people hasn’t been as frequent. When I do, oh, how I cherish these individuals. You should, too.
We have thoughts, feelings, verbal words, and behaviors. Of the four, at least one reflects honesty and someone’s true intentions. You’ve heard the adage, “actions speak louder than words.” Someone can say he or she is happy to help you and then consistently bail when you demonstrate strength by asking for help. His or her actions are honest: that person does not want to help you, though he or she said otherwise.
Authenticity occurs when people’s thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and words align. We say what we mean and act in accordance.
How can we spot authenticity? When people speak their values and live out their values, regardless of the audience. Authentic people are congruent whether they are alone or in a group setting. One of my favorite sayings is, “karma don’t blink in the dark.” (I misheard lyrics from “Gone Going” by the Black Eyed Peas and Jack Johnson, and that quote stuck)!
Are you honest but struggling with genuineness or authenticity? Is there someone in your life you receive mixed messages from? Why do you think this is?
What’s holding you back from being you — the true you — who is confident, compassionate, loving, and giving without expectations?
Dig deep and be real with yourself. It’s never too late to turn over a new leaf.