Relationships come in all different shapes and sizes: mother-daughter, partner-partner, friend-friend, colleague-colleague, self-Self, etc. The relationships we are born into, and those we choose to nurture, play significant roles in how we see ourselves, how we feel about the world at-large, and who we allow to influence us. Here are seven principles to remind yourself within your various relationships:
1. If you are having difficulty making friends or finding a potential partner, then put yourself in places you want to be found. Get to know one another and see if your feelings are reciprocated. We tend to complicate and read into things too early. Keep it simple and playful. Most importantly, enjoy your own company before you invite someone else into your domain.
2. Just because things aren’t moving as quickly as you’d like, or in the sequence you’d like, doesn’t mean something is wrong.
3. Relationships are sacred. Each relationship is a new language. In most relationships, we’re not even speaking the same language; yet, we become angered when our friend/partner/parent, etc. doesn’t understand what we mean or vice versa. Those within sacred relationships become fluent with each other, recognizing that no other pair speak the same language.
4. When you recognize that everyone has their own lane, you will learn that the universe is abundantly generous. Scarcity mentality will lure you to others’ lanes, and of course you will not feel good, because it’s not your lane. Someone else’s abundance is not meant for you. The reverse is also true.
5. “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” — Søren Kierkegaard
6. Sometimes people need to get to a point when they are sick and tired of being sick and tired, in order to create consistent changes in their lives.
7. Are you listening to your child? One of the quickest ways to drown out a child’s self-expression (i.e., their unique way of understanding, being, and interacting with the world) is to criticize them or compare them to another child. Playfulness, firmness, creativity, kindness, and responsible guidance are all important parenting tools. Which one(s) do you need to nurture?
Cheers to you,